FAQs about meditation and online meditation

What if I’m new to meditation?

Meditation is fairly straightforward and in an online meditation you will be given verbal prompts as to what to do. You will soon pick it up.

What does meditation involve?

This depends on the kind of meditation. All meditations have a beginning and an end sequence, and these can be similar for each meditation.

For the beginning, you make yourself comfortable, and close your eyes. You can then focus on your breathing. Just notice your breathing, and observe it for several breaths. This relaxes you, calms your focus, and reduces mind chatter. You can then become aware of the energy of the meditation, relax, and just observe that.

What happens then depends on the kind of meditation. If it is a meditation held in silence and stillness, you allow yourself to notice the peace and calm. Or if there is an energy flowing while you are being silent and still, you relax, and just notice or feel the energy that is flowing in the meditation.

If the meditation is a guided visualization, you relax, listen and go with the flow of any images, feelings and sensations you might notice. It is like being taken on a journey, where you can relax and enjoy.

Towards the end of a meditation, you once again become aware of your breathing, and stay with that for a few breaths at least. You then become aware of your body, and perhaps notice your fingers and your feet and toes. Then when you are ready, you open your eyes.

What clothes should I wear?

The general idea is that you are comfortable. People will often wear loose clothing. Sometimes people like to wear some clothes that for them means they are going to meditate. It’s rather like having a protocol to follow that tells the mind, “Right, this is a special time, it’s time to step away from distractions, the outside world and busy thoughts and feelings, and meditate.” The clothes set the tone for some people.

How should I sit?

Some people like to sit in a traditional yoga lotus position which goes with Indian based meditation techniques. They would also hold thumb and (say, middle) fingers together to allow the flow of prana through the body. It is worth bearing in mind there are other meditation traditions where this won’t be considered a necessity. Some people like to have their hands, palms up, in their laps.

Some people like to kneel, partly sitting on a cushion, and other people are happy to sit in a chair. I find that sitting in a chair works for me as when the energy comes in during meditation, it accesses various chakras in a way where the lotus position and hand positions aren’t the important factors, whereas just being comfortable and open to the energy are important.

Should I eat or refrain from eating before meditation?

It is personal choice. However, in some kinds of meditation, there can be a lot of energy flowing through, and the body responds by using up resources. Generally it is helpful to make sure blood sugar levels are high enough, and having enough minerals in the diet is also helpful. It is better to feel stable and grounded rather than weak and faint, so a decent diet helps as does food after a meditation if it seems to be necessary. The type of diet depends on what helps your body feel nourished.

How long should I meditate?

As a beginner, 20 minutes or so is a good start for a week or so. Then 40 minutes, then an hour. It depends on the kind of meditation.

Working with energy though, it is possible to notice a start, when the energy starts coming in, a period where the energy of the meditation keeps flowing, and then the energy recedes. In this situation, the amount of time for the meditation then depends on when the energy stops, rather than being a set time.

In everyday life, a maximum of an hour a day is OK, as life is for living and loving and learning, and meditation can be used to support this, rather than be a way of avoiding life (with the caveat that sometimes meditation might be required as an escape and a healing respite for a while).

What benefits are there to meditation?

Once you have a feel of how much meditation to do a day feels right to you, meditation can be beneficial. There has been a fair bit of research done on the beneficial effects of meditation. It has been found to reduce stress and anxiety, and physically to lower blood pressure. People seem to become calmer and more relaxed, and happier. Being more relaxed supports creativity and focus, and so improves effectiveness.

I have found that meditations with a focus on self-esteem improve self-esteem. Also with meditation it is possible to improve body image. People can feel better about themselves with the help of meditation, though this can be achieved in other ways, too, I should say (e.g. doing something you can do well at such as sports, singing, a hobby, learning a new skill, public speaking, finding a job you enjoy, and therapy if required).

As I work with chakras and the aura, I have found that meditations that focus on these help to clean up a person’s energy (so they feel better), and I have found it is possible to improve intuition (we all can do it, just needs a bit of preparation and practice).

Meditation can open up someone to the layers of their spirituality, and there is a lot to explore about spirituality through meditation.

Can children meditate?

Yes, though perhaps for shorter times than for adults.

When is the best time of day to meditate?

Any time that suits you or that you can fit into your life if it isn’t possible to prioritise a time. It helps to do meditation when you are not too tired as you might just fall asleep otherwise. Some people like early morning, some people like to meditate at noon, at lunchtime. It is what suits you and when meditations are available if you are doing them online.

There are meditations and articles about meditation and spirituality available on my blog through this link.

How I Got Into Meditation by Jonathan Barber

The author, Jonathan Barber, chilling out.

I started on the path to meditation in the middle of the 1980’s. The first step came about because I was a science teacher in inner-London interested in ways of learning. I came across a book that took a powerful learning technique from Eastern Europe and added in Western style ideas, including creative visualization.

I tried out some of the creative visualisations, liked them and incorporated guided visualization into my science classes. The students loved them, saying they helped them deal with stress. The guided imagery helped too, with learning. In the 1980’s and early 1990’s you didn’t need a certificate or a diploma from some organisation in order to use guided visualization or meditation, and the organisations didn’t exist then anyway.

For myself, I found the techniques really useful for working with the subconscious mind for creativity, and for accessing good ideas.

For the next step, a healer suggested that I should do some Om-ing. I did this, and found that my ability to meditate was deepened. From then on I meditated by sitting in my attempt at a lotus position with eyes closed. First of all I focused on my breathing, become silent, before going into the flow of the meditation.

The meditation work changed me. It opened up my intuition. Along with doing T’ai Chi it helped me become aware of spiritual energy, and it opened up my healing ability.

I started doing healing work, and using breathing techniques and visualization with drug users who wanted to overcome the addictions.

I also accidentally started giving Tarot card readings but without the training. After a while, as I was giving the reading faster than I was looking at the cards, I stopped using them which was somewhat freeing. I put the development of intuition down to the meditation.

Working with people and the energies they brought along which they would release, meant it was necessary to learn and use guided visualizations to clear my aura, polish up my chakras, learn how to protect my aura and chakras, and see off any negative energies, and stay grounded. I would then teach these techniques to others when required.

I found that working with the heart centre helped all the other centres and I worked with the third eye centre, too. This led onto giving Develop Your Intuition workshops, since if I could do it, so could others. Teaching people to use their intuition was a great way to help people find their purpose if they needed to, make better decisions, assess situations, people and their own timeline ahead.

Moving out of London, I kept on meditating and learning more about spirituality, energy, and the possibilities of meditation. I would teach meditation techniques as and when required. I found that the right guided meditation, along with the requisite energy would flow in as I worked with people at that time on a one-to-one basis.

Now in the present moment, wave after wave of new energy is flowing in, which can be expressed through new guided visualization techniques in the moment, brand new; fresh.

I found that spirituality is not static or stagnant. Like a flowing river it is always changing, and each wave of spiritual energy coming in is different just as each wave coming in to the shore is different, and always original. Spirituality is always changing, always fresh. Truth is many layered (think of an onion as a basic analogy). People as spiritual beings are many-layered and always developing spiritually. Newer and newer energies are coming in, and guided visualization and meditations are a way of working with these energies, as the same energies impact on the world around us, bringing change.

I find that using meditation, it is possible to have healing, the right energy and an intuitive sense of the steps to take in life, and an understanding of the order within apparent chaos. Makes life more like surfing a wave rather than falling in it!

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If you would like to know about online meditation and courses that are available, click here.

How to know if it is a good idea to get into a relationship

Some years ago, I was having a telephone conversation with a friend. She told me that her teenage daughter was in turmoil about a possible relationship with a boy who had asked her out. She really didn’t know what to do, and her feelings were mixed.

I said I would try to help. So my friend put her daughter on the phone. She reiterated that she didn’t know what to do. Relationships are a lot to do with the karma of those involved, and one partner can give the other partner the experiences they need to balance their karma, and to learn whatever it is they need to learn. Also there is often a recognition at a deep level, as the people involved would have had one or more previous lifetimes where they were in a relationship.

When people form a relationship, cordings develop between their chakras or centres. These cordings look weak or strong depending on the strength of the relationship. The cordings look beautiful, or healthy, or unpleasant, depending on the type and quality of the relationship.  The aura of one person responds when they think about their partner, or potential partner. The aura can become more beautiful, brighter and lighter. Or there is very little change if there is little meaning in the relationship. If there is something unhealthy, or unhappy or downright wrong in the relationship, that too can show up in the aura, as it reflects a truth, even if on the personality level, the person is oblivious to this.

I asked my friend’s daughter to think about this other person, close her eyes, and imagine the potential boyfriend in front of her at a comfortable distance. I suggested that she look at his heart centre, to see if it was large or small, light or dark, and how bright or how dark. Just for the record, his heart centre wasn’t dark, but it was a bit dull, and on the small side, which indicated not much love, but no malice.

I said for her to look at his solar plexus; was it light or dark, and were there any strands or cordings looking like little snakes. It was a bit grey, with what looked like small snakes, she said. This indicated a level of manipulation, rather than a desire to free-up and empower. Not evil or malicious, more like very annoying. It was like a learned habit rather than deliberately controlling.

Next I said she should look at the sexual centre. That was a bit dark. As well as sex, the sexual centre is about ownership, but the dark energy was what she wouldn’t need, as through sex energy is transferred between lovers, so at some point, if they had sex, she would end up with dark energy in her system which would not be that amazing for her. I didn’t talk about sex to her, but just got her to check the energy of his sexual centre, and she got the point anyway.

Just for good measure, I asked her to imagine bringing him a little bit closer until cordings formed between their centres. She said these were dull and saggy. They wouldn’t make for an inspiring relationship. At least they weren’t black, possessive, evil, violent and controlling. Nor were they bright, beautiful, energized and strong, with positive and loving energy flowing back and forth.

She decided not to follow up the young man’s invitation.

I think that just being able to talk with someone about what was happening helping to calm her enough to focus and review the situation. My friend’s daughter was great at using her imagination, which anyone can use as a tool to work with the world of energy, the third eye and the other centres and the aura.

In a relationship, a good heart is an essential, so it needs to be large enough and bright enough. The other centres need to be clean, and being bright helps. Cordings need to be bright, vibrant and loving. These are the ingredients of a good start at least, and the karma will show up in the path, in the timeline from then on. (What’s that about a Golden Pathway timeline that’s mentioned elsewhere in the blog?)

This way of looking at relationships and people not only works with romantic relationships, but also friendships, working relationships, and any other kind of relationship.

For FAQs about meditation, click here.

If you would like to know about online meditation and courses that are available, click here.

If you enjoyed this article or found it useful you might want more spiritual information and meditations. Take a look at the page https://spiritualgrowthadventure.com/spiritual-books-spiritualgrowthadventure/ which will tell you more about the books “Your Spiritual Awakening And the New Dawn for Humanity”, “Meditation: Opening Doorways On A New Reality”, and “Neutralising Negativity” on Kindle and Amazon. Love and light, Jonathan Barber