Karma, love and relationships

On social media there are posts from people who want a loving relationship, and they want to meet their Twin Flame, or their Soulmate. These are fairly recent fashionable labels in the history of spirituality. (It needs also to be said that some people are happy not being in a relationship and have no interest or need for one.)

The idea is that with a Twin Flame or Soulmate everything is going to be perfect. The connection is going to be deep, loving, spiritual and mystical, and give the person who wants this kind of relationship everything they want, when they want it, and how they want it. They are going to be so happy. All the time.

Sounds realistic?

It can be interesting to look at relationships through the lens of reincarnation and karma.

Before reincarnating back into the physical, a person will have gone through and reviewed their last life. With the help of spiritual helpers on the inner planes, and perhaps their guide, and possibly a spiritual Master, they will have a look at what they need to learn to develop spiritually. The spiritual helpers, the guide and any Master will be looking at the big picture which may include millions of lives into the future. They will help choose the karma for the next lifetime. They will help choose the karma that person will have including the karma to do with love and relationships. The aim of reincarnating time and again is to learn, develop understanding through experience, and so develop consciousness and become more loving. Life is a school. The spiritual helpers, guide and Master will help choose the gender and the personality to wear for the next lifetime. (You have many personalities through all the lifetimes and usually alternate gender according to the Law of Opposites).

There will be people in the person’s soul family that they tend to come down with into matter. They will come down at the same time to play their part in life. They will have the ideal karma, gender and personality to learn from as they come down as well.

The people you find around you have incarnated before with you, sometimes they have done this many times. Everyone plays different roles in different lifetimes, so two people will be siblings, parents, children, grandparents, friends and enemies. Many permutations of relationships get explored and karma either created or worked through.

When people reincarnate into physical reality again they (usually) go through amnesia so they don’t remember what was said on the inner planes and they don’t recall their last life. The amnesia helps because people just get on with life rather than have information and energy bleeding in that could interfere.

It’s all karma. Two of these people who came down round about at the same time will meet, gaze into each other’s eyes, fall in love and have plenty of energy going forwards and backwards between their chakras as their karma plays out and they form a shared timeline. It’s the best relationship ever, they think. It is not uncommon for two people to be married in past lives say twenty or thirty or so times. They really help each other learn about love and grow bit by bit in love and consciousness through those lifetimes.

Life, and karma is about learning, developing understanding through experience and then growing in consciousness and becoming more loving. The karma someone has, or two people have, may be just to have one relationship for that life. Possibly a very long relationship, where the personalities the souls are wearing match well, and where the personalities help them learn to love each other more.

The karma a person has may be for more than one relationship, perhaps several with all the other souls in the soul family that came down at about the same time. More than one relationship can be a preparation for the special, important relationship of that lifetime; people in the soul family help in the preparation for it.

There are so many different kinds of relationships, and so much to learn about love. It is worth remembering that the different scenarios are agreed Upstairs on the inner planes for each lifetime. Perhaps there was agreement Upstairs that when the two souls were in physical matter they would love each other and have a harmonious relationship, or perhaps they wanted to learn about making up after arguments, or they wanted to learn about self-love and get out of an abusive relationship, perhaps they wanted to learn how to forgive, or how to be compassionate, or selfless, or completely devoted, or mutually supportive and strong as a couple. Perhaps there is a need to learn (possibly lifetime after lifetime) how to look after the same person through terminal illness, or help them through addiction. Perhaps the relationship for one soul is to learn how to let in love, or to love.

Learning about love is definitely not always easy on the personality, even if there is a gradual increase in ability to love, and in consciousness along the way.

There is a difference between being in a relationship to get love and to let in love. There is also a big difference to getting love and being in a relationship to give love and be loving (though not at the expense of themselves, the exception being when one soul so loves another soul that they are willing to sacrifice their own physical existence to protect and save the other person).

Happy love and relationships.

 

If you enjoyed this article or found it useful you might want to take a look at “Your Spiritual Awakening And the New Dawn for Humanity” by Jonathan Barber, and also “Meditation: Opening Doorways On A New Reality”, on Kindle and Amazon

Spiritual, single, love wanted

I have seen many posts in spiritual groups on facebook that when someone becomes spiritual and sees themselves and the world differently than before, they find themselves isolated, alone and different to other people. Having been in a similar position quite a few years ago got me thinking what it was like for me.

Some people are OK being on their own (as one person told me: there is a difference to being alone, and being lonely). Some people want a companion to see the world at least partially as they themselves do and share the journey and have mutual support Some want the physical love and affection.

What is striking is the sense of isolation and of being different to others that waking up to a new way of being  incurs. It can feel disheartening and depressing.

What to do?

Some people might try to visualise and affirm they are going to meet the perfect person for them, and try to use laws of attraction and other energy techniques and ceremonies.

If meeting someone is in their karma then it will happen. If there is opportunistic karma it is going to happen, provided the person concerned does something. That something is highly unlikely to be staying in their room, flat or house. They have to get out into the world.

There is online dating, but dating services for spiritually inclined people are not massive, and it is worth remembering that your guide and your Higher Self wants you to get it right.

Most often people come across that wonderful special future partner when they aren’t making a special effort, they are instead being themselves, being content and happy, living a life that feels meaningful. They are not looking, searching or yearning for the person of their desires to plug a hole in their life. Neediness is a turn-off, and is not magnetic to attracting in a lovely person.

If  a person has a sense of wholeness (rather than holeness) they have a better energy that people pick up on. That other person senses the vibes in a couple of seconds and they do a quick, albeit usually subconscious scan with their third eye.

A relationship isn’t 0 + 1 = 1/2, where the person searching feels empty and is zero, and the other person of their dreams is the whole one. It is synergystic, where 1 + 1 = at least two.

Generalising, creating a life that you love is the first step to having something to offer.

Next step, step out into the world. Be yourself. For some people that can mean wear and look like whatever. Other folk might be more deliberate about this. Part of human nature is about highlighting your good points that you think others will appreciate that are a statement about yourself.

If you feel confident about going up to a stranger or aquaintence and striking up a conversation or asking them out for a date then great. (I only did this when exceptionally motivated though I reckon I was given a push by that lot Upstairs when they saw fit. Mostly I was far too shy.)

I lived in London, and there was / is a thriving spiritual and therapeutic culture, so it was easy to meet people. I used to go to workshops either to learn about an aspect of spirituality, or get some healing. I would also go on training courses to develop therapeutic skills. In those kind of settings I realised I got to know people. I would work with them, and at the breaks and mealtimes we would eat and chat, and if it was a long course, we would perhaps socialize as a group or perhaps i would socialize with one other person. It wasn’t a case of thinking about getting a girlfriend, it was about being in the moment and having a great time with some wonderful people. Some good friendships grew out of this, and also a couple of deeper relationships flourished over the years.

Thinking about today, not everyone will be living in a city or town with a lively spiritual scene. Then there is the internet. Great for contacting people all over the world, but not as great as being able to be physically with other people, or as great as having a lot of spiritually-minded people all together in a way they get to interact with each other.

For that to happen someone has to get the ball rolling to arrange physical meet-ups and events. Card reading evenings, sharing and meditation, group walks to spiritual sites, a meditation first and then a barbeque… There has to plenty of ways to get people together talking.

If you are out of your home, going someplace new, say being a visitor to a new place or being a tourist, you can meet new people. You could meet someone just right. It isn’t something that can be forced. If you are relaxed and going with the flow, and letting yourself be nudged by your intuition, then if it it is going to happen that you meet someone, you will.

 

How to know if it is a good idea to get into a relationship

Some years ago, I was having a telephone conversation with a friend. She told me that her teenage daughter was in turmoil about a possible relationship with a boy who had asked her out. She really didn’t know what to do, and her feelings were mixed.

I said I would try to help. So my friend put her daughter on the phone. She reiterated that she didn’t know what to do. Relationships are a lot to do with the karma of those involved, and one partner can give the other partner the experiences they need to balance their karma, and to learn whatever it is they need to learn. Also there is often a recognition at a deep level, as the people involved would have had one or more previous lifetimes where they were in a relationship.

When people form a relationship, cordings develop between their chakras or centres. These cordings look weak or strong depending on the strength of the relationship. The cordings look beautiful, or healthy, or unpleasant, depending on the type and quality of the relationship.  The aura of one person responds when they think about their partner, or potential partner. The aura can become more beautiful, brighter and lighter. Or there is very little change if there is little meaning in the relationship. If there is something unhealthy, or unhappy or downright wrong in the relationship, that too can show up in the aura, as it reflects a truth, even if on the personality level, the person is oblivious to this.

I asked my friend’s daughter to think about this other person, close her eyes, and imagine the potential boyfriend in front of her at a comfortable distance. I suggested that she look at his heart centre, to see if it was large or small, light or dark, and how bright or how dark. Just for the record, his heart centre wasn’t dark, but it was a bit dull, and on the small side, which indicated not much love, but no malice.

I said for her to look at his solar plexus; was it light or dark, and were there any strands or cordings looking like little snakes. It was a bit grey, with what looked like small snakes, she said. This indicated a level of manipulation, rather than a desire to free-up and empower. Not evil or malicious, more like very annoying. It was like a learned habit rather than deliberately controlling.

Next I said she should look at the sexual centre. That was a bit dark. As well as sex, the sexual centre is about ownership, but the dark energy was what she wouldn’t need, as through sex energy is transferred between lovers, so at some point, if they had sex, she would end up with dark energy in her system which would not be that amazing for her. I didn’t talk about sex to her, but just got her to check the energy of his sexual centre, and she got the point anyway.

Just for good measure, I asked her to imagine bringing him a little bit closer until cordings formed between their centres. She said these were dull and saggy. They wouldn’t make for an inspiring relationship. At least they weren’t black, possessive, evil, violent and controlling. Nor were they bright, beautiful, energized and strong, with positive and loving energy flowing back and forth.

She decided not to follow up the young man’s invitation.

I think that just being able to talk with someone about what was happening helping to calm her enough to focus and review the situation. My friend’s daughter was great at using her imagination, which anyone can use as a tool to work with the world of energy, the third eye and the other centres and the aura.

In a relationship, a good heart is an essential, so it needs to be large enough and bright enough. The other centres need to be clean, and being bright helps. Cordings need to be bright, vibrant and loving. These are the ingredients of a good start at least, and the karma will show up in the path, in the timeline from then on. (What’s that about a Golden Pathway timeline that’s mentioned elsewhere in the blog?)

This way of looking at relationships and people not only works with romantic relationships, but also friendships, working relationships, and any other kind of relationship.

 

If you enjoyed this article or found it useful you might want to take a look at “Your Spiritual Awakening And the New Dawn for Humanity” by Jonathan Barber, and also “Meditation: Opening Doorways On A New Reality”, on Kindle and Amazon